Embrace that nervous energy, those sweaty palms and the knots in your stomach, because they're all signs you're taking a positive step forward to try something new in your life. If the father of my child didn't like me enough to stay around, what makes me think a guy who has no biological connection to my child will?You have to step out on a limb sometimes -- that's where all the fruit is." To put things in greater perspective, think about all of the things you've managed as a single parent: middle-of-the-night illness, potty training, getting the bills paid. --Tia, 34, New York, New York Solution: "It's so completely understandable that you feel insecure for this reason, but the decision by the father of your child to leave was his, not yours -- and a choice that big cannot boil down to something as simple as 'not liking you enough.' "Whatever his reasons were, they were his reasons, his issues, and his problems, not yours.
(Parenting.com) -- You've mastered the playdate, but now it's time for the date-date.
If you're feeling nervous or confused about entering the complex world of dating again, you're not alone. Cheese, library, my backyard -- I don't really find myself in adult environments these days.
Spencer says, "If your carriage is turning into a pumpkin just when your night is getting more interesting with someone you've been on a few dates with, consider starting your next date at his place, rather than ending it there.
Cook dinner and then watch a movie so you feel like you're getting more out of your night." You could also schedule a mid-day romp on your lunch break or when your child is at after-school activities. Parenting.com: The 5 rules for a satisfying sex life How Do I Get Back Into the Game? My son is now four and I am really nervous to go on a date and almost feel like I've never even been kissed.
Still, less is more, says Deborah Roth Ledley, Ph D, licensed psychologist, founder of the website The Calm and author of "Becoming a Calm Mom: How to Manage Stress and Enjoy the First Year of Motherhood." "Keep it simple and say something like, 'I've been feeling so lonely and it is time for me to start meeting some new people.' If your child asks a question about your date, respond with a short and simple answer, but if they are satisfied with the initial statement, change the subject to homework or something important to them." Parenting.com: The easy way to answer kids' toughest questions When Do I Introduce the Kids?