This rule is almost never stated or enforced among queer communities.
If you're gay, you will almost inevitably date a friend's ex at some point.
In fact, when we met, my now-partner was on a date with my best friend.
There are our college friends, our BFFs since we can remember, work-colleagues-turned-friends, and everything in between.
For the most part, those parties don’t mingle all too often.
If you are an angel like me and have set up some friends, here are some ground rules to follow so you don’t become that dreaded middle line of communication. Don’t pull a Gretchen Weiners and reveal all of one of your friend’s secrets to the other.
Your gal pal may be BEGGING you to give her all the dirt on his ex, and trust me, it is tempting to spill. Your other friend will tell her about his past relationships, kinks, fears, and whatever else he holds close when he’s ready.
Jennifer Aniston and bestie Courtney Cox were both romantically linked with Counting Crows frontman Adam Duritz - and Katy Perry and Taylor Swift both had relationships with John Meyer (though that one did cause Bad Blood).