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If you seriously want to know the struggles interracial couples go through, you can go ahead and ask this question. Aren't you worried about [insert country/ethnic stereotype here]?If you're simply asking for formality (or because it is the first thing you can think of), skip this question. Here's the thing about stereotypes: they are usually offensive and misplaced.
The Internet is full of all sorts of untrue stereotypes that are passed off as "facts."3. I understand the intentions behind this question are pure, but it always comes off a bit racist. No, I do not have "Yellow fever" (inappropriate slang for someone who is only attracted to someone of an Asian diaspora), "Jungle fever" (likewise for dating people of an African diaspora) or any other fetishes you can think of. Less than 50 years ago, interracial marriage was illegal in the United States and even when the anti-miscegenation laws were deemed illegal by the Supreme Court in 1967, interracial couples were harassed and discriminated against for decades.Now we live in a new, global era with more tolerance and understanding for couples that exist outside the "norms" for relationships... As the "white" half of a Japanese-American couple, I noticed some of the same questions keep popping up again and again.After a quick chat with some other interracial couples, I realized my experiences were not unique.These are eight seemingly innocent questions that have deeper, darker implications for interracial couples. How does your family feel about your partner's race? Race is surprisingly difficult to talk about -- you can't just ask an interracial couple about their family's reaction to the race of their partner and expect a single-sentence answer.In fact, interracial couples might be better off because when your partner was raised in a different country, you automatically assume they do things differently. That being said, I stare at couples all the time, regardless of their race. In the same way, I like to give others the benefit of the doubt.
Disagreements are natural, rather than the sign of an "unhealthy" relationship. I can never tell if they are staring and thinking: Do you speak [insert partner's language]?
Much like the other two questions, this is simple curiosity.
By only dating white men, I would be cutting out a whole group of viable dating candidates. Furthermore, even if I did have a preference toward a specific race, I am free to love whomever I want..6.
Can you help me find a [insert race/ethnicity] boyfriend/girlfriend?
If I find someone of your preferred ethnicity and gender who wants to date your ethnicity and gender, I will let you know, but I'm not going to go digging through my fiancé's friends, trying to find someone who "wants to date a hot, white girl." Answer: I can, but I would rather not.
Of course couples with different mother tongues have communication problems -- but so does every other couple. By asking this question, you're acknowledging that interracial relationships are "outside the norm." If you have noticed this, other people have too and if they have noticed it, they have probably also stared (without meaning to).