If someone's political, social, or religious views really bother you, why would you message her? I know it feels like you're working hard to get responses, and the person you’re messaging should also take the time to write something that doesn’t sound copied and pasted.But it becomes too much when we feel like we're auditioning to have a conversation with you.
” or “Did he not think it was worth his time to read my profile? And please, dear lord, do not actually copy and paste your messages.
While you may think it looks like you’ve typed “Hey, how’s it going” or even “You seem really down to earth,” we can tell all you’ve actually typed is “Control C” and “Control V.” Even if we can’t, you're at some point bound to send your template to the same person twice and get caught like the unfortunate fellow below — or worse, you’ll send your supposedly individualized message to two women who know each other, like the guy who asked my roommate and I both if we were Brazilian. back up, users who write "sexy," "beautiful," "hot," or "cutie" in their initial messages have a below-average response rate.
Expressing amusement shows you have a sense of humor, and the casual nature of these terms allows you to "lower your guard," in a sense. You should also avoid writing a boring autobiography explaining who you are; if people are interested they can read your profile or ask.
And do not suggest the two of you meet up, or even exchange numbers or email addresses.
We have combined our own research with a 2009 Ok Trends study to develop comprehensive advice for sending your first message.