Dating abuse victims
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In fact, people in abusive relationships are often happy together: victims talk about extreme highs and extreme lows in their relationship, of feeling very fulfilled 90% of the time, and despondent, scared, or sad 10% of the time.
Healthy, unhealthy, and abusive relationships exist on a continuum and we all have different expectations in our relationships.That said, trust your gut: if something seems off in the relationship, it probably is.Here’s a (non-exhaustive) list of signs that your friend’s relationship may be abusive: Here are some other common signs of an abusive dating relationship.Finally, know that your friend and their abuser might often look genuinely happy together.It can be hard to figure out if your friend’s relationship is abusive.Know first that abusers are often very charming and skilled at masking their abuse.
Often they can look particularly committed to their partners and it can be hard to recognize that “commitment” as something unhealthy or abusive.
Recognize that anyone (regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, race, or class) can be an abuser, and that abuse can be emotional, psychological, sexual, physical, or financial in nature — or some combination of these.
Supporting a friend through an abusive relationship is hard.
Often your friend won’t recognize their partner as abusive, at least initially.
Even if/when they do, they will likely struggle to leave the relationship or may decide that leaving isn’t the safest or best option for them. It’s scary to watch someone you love be mistreated, and the best ways to support them may be counterintuitive to you.
Below we’ve compiled some common questions, with responses from both survivors and friends of survivors.