Hello there, There is no clear-cut answer to this, as it very much does depend on the individual.For example, I am in a relationship with someone who has identified as straight, while I identify as gay / androphilic (I’ve been attracted to gay and bi men, which has been my usually preference, but men overall more generally).
We have decided that it is not particularly necessary to view our relationship as queer or straight - we are just two people who are happy to be with each other, and maintain our own sense of identities meanwhile.
Maintaining a sense of identity independent of the given relationship, while also being able to integrate it, is quite important.
Soon after Colleen made a profile on OKCupid she agreed to a date—just to test out the site.
She and the guy hadn't had much communication, and she assumed he was mostly interested in hooking up. ” This doesn't happen often, Colleen said, but when it does she tries to play it cool.
But not every transgender person wants to be this open.