To enter into any relationship with the expectation that it will be the key to a happy life is to place an idolatrous, unhealthy, and unrealistic expectation on it.This expectation will only suffocate any potential for the relationship to grow in a healthy way.This is not a list where it’s all or nothing—that is, in order to be a disciple, all of these ideas need to be in place.
We believe that love, peace, and joy will flood into our lives and give us our “happily ever after.” Falling in love and being in love is awesome, but if we think a relationship is what will save us from loneliness, low self-esteem, and purposelessness, we’re just wrong.
No matter how good, godly, and healthy a relationship may be, it cannot fully satisfy the deeper spiritual hungers within you.
All of us go through a stage where we assume we’re a boyfriend or girlfriend away from having it all.
We believe that if we could find our “true love,” all the issues that bring us down will fade into the background.
Or maybe we believe we’re the one sent into this person’s life to do the saving, to make them a better person, and so we wear the abuse as a kind of badge of honour.