“It’s the idea of ‘other,’” she said, “that can feel threatening to us in relationships.” She went on to say that frank conversations, openly communicating what I really think this relates to your conundrum.The more we communicate our concerns, desires, and needs, practicing honesty with ourselves and our partners, the better our chances of creating relationships of our dreams.(Sorry for that terminology—just being honest about my initial thoughts.) She said she felt ashamed of some of the experiences, which made me feel a bit better—like if she regrets them, I’m better off, and right in my angst.
There were some gentler exceptions—strangers touching me tenderly to help me enjoy myself.
But it felt weird and fake and, as much as I wanted to, I couldn’t. It didn’t matter if sex had been protected—I lived out those weeks in secret terror.
The fact that you shared honestly with me suggests you’re on a stellar path.
When I was 17, a friend and I promised to lose our virginity within the year.
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