If you're at a point where you don't want to wait anymore, stop waiting. If your partner has issues about letting you see his phone, then chances are, he's hiding something sketchy. I finally (5 days after our last text) sent her a message "Hey Kid! She told me I should read "He's just not into you" (should I also watch sex in the city too? Anyway, she blew me off for not chasing her skirt... Hey, who knew, she might bring you soup or something to show you that she is that into you.... If the person you are with wants to "share" let them. Yes, but to be fair, she doesn't write about demanding access to his phone/ mail.